Thursday, December 25, 2014

Let Your Life Speak: Finding the Deep Gladness that Meets the World's Deep Need

67862Parker Palmer in Let Your Life Speak invites the reader to consider and to follow deeply one's identity or sense of "calling" via the telling of his own story and with an illumination of various thoughts, texts, and poetry that support the premise that genuine vocation joins self and service. Detecting, pursuing and actualizing such vocation can become "the place where your deep gladness meets the worlds's deep need" (quoting F Buechner). Palmer is not unrealistic showing that such of life pursuit does not come without a "journey into darkness", for he interprets the path of vocational discovery (genuine sense of "calling") via his own human experience of movements out of incompatible places of employment (trial and error perhaps) and depression (deep spiritual/psychological experiences that require support). He takes on the American myth (e.g., consumerism) with a simple but elegant metaphor of the ecology of life and draws out the human dimension of "spirituality" as an often missing component that is antithetical to the common "power of positive thinking." Like a plant the spiritual journey that finds authentic vocation "will turn inward and downward toward the hardest realities of our lives, rather than outward and upward toward abstraction, idealization, and exhortation." In the end, which is only the start, we may discover in the words of Robert Frost  ("Two Tramps in Mud Time"),  

      My object in living is to unite
      My avocation and my vocation
      As my two eyes make one in sight.
      Only where love and need are one,
      And the work is play for mortal stakes,
      Is the deed ever really done
      For heaven and the future’s sakes.


Sunday, August 10, 2014

Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification



Finally, a handbook and classification of positive attributes (strengths, virtues) from years of work and research in "positive" psychology that capture the human being in a living, dynamic tension between inherent brokenness and a capacity to flourish. Practitioners have had to work too long with just the DSM-IV (now V) as a primary set of "labels" to describe our clients while having to advocate for their strengths among the naysayers surrounding client cases. Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification is founded on ancient roots of virtue ethics, an array of universal virtues that cross religious traditions,  and growing research and evidence-based practices which have evolved from positive psychology; e.g., developmental schemas, resilience factors, strengths-based perspective.  


This text will now be a primary source at my disposal to support engagement with clients, exploration among clients and to help clients identify their signature strengths by which to grow, work at change, and to flourish when many around them are stuck in the mud, wagging their heads in apathy.

Christopher Peterson & Martin E. P. Seligman, Character Strengths and Virtues: A Handbook and Classification, Oxford University Press, 2004. 

Friday, February 14, 2014

Demystifying Love

Demystifying love is a needed practice throughout life if we are to break through the seasonal and developmental grinds that bear down on the very nature of relationships.

From Demystifying Love: Plain Talk for the Mental Health Professional, Stephen B. Levine. New York: Routledge, 2007

Here are some nouns of love that help begin this process:
  •     An Idealized Ambition
  •     An Arrangement--a deal
  •     An attachment
  •     Moral commitment
  •     Management process
  •     A force of nature
  •     An illusion
  •     A stop sign

      Here are some diverse verbs of Love.
  •     Love evolves
  •     Falling in love
  •     Being-in-love
  •     Staying in love
Here are some concepts about staying in and sustaining love:
  •     Being genuine
  •     Overcoming narcissism
  •     Negotiation


“LOVE is mutuality of devotion forever subduing the antagonisms inherent in divided function.” - Erick Erickson

Below is a general taxonomy of love in relationships (thinking tool)